I would love to get out of this marriage made in hell of 8 long years?
By admin on Dec 30, 2009 in Marriage & Divorce
brendad asked:
I have been married to a sociopath for 8 years. I am wife# 3. We share a child, who adores both of us. From the start he was so attentive. I did wonder however, why he had soul custody of his two teenage boys and their Mother never was mentioned or involved with them. He is very controlling and they were not allowed to mention her name. I became pregnant, he then suggested I get an abortion by taking a pill. I refused. We eventually got married. It was so gradual. I watched him browbeat his younger son , who was fond of his mother. To the point where his son was having panic attacks which led to heavy drinking and drugs.And later showed signs of violent behavior. The older son however is his favorite. Later I found out because he does as he is told. Needless to say when the boys left home, I became his punching bag. He has recruited his whole family against me.It has made my life a living hell, since my family is deceased. I had the good credit when we met. He had none. I put his name on my cards. He then forged my signature for huge amounts of cash. When his business failed I am left holding the cards literally! Thousands of dollars. I learned he owed the IRS quited a large sum of money which he lied about. We lost our home. After I refused to sign Power of Attorney on his tax lien , he made my life unbearable. Often times he would bring in his fav. son to get in my face and try and set me off. I warned him, the next time the police would be called and he would be escorted off the property. This man is very cunning, noone ever hears the things he says to me. It is emotional and mental abuse of severity. I have called the women’s shelter and the women’s crisis center for help several times over the years. Appears to be hopeless. I am afraid of him. I have seen him set people up for failure. He is a convincing, practised liar. and has an exceptional verbal facility, which can outmanoeuvre most people in times of conflict. I just feel as though there isn’t any hope. He is the actual Jekyll and Hyde nature. a very scary individual. sometimes i wonder if it’s easier to stay in the marriage rather then face divorce. I do know I cannot go on feeling this way it just gets worse with time. Open for suggestions……………
I have been married to a sociopath for 8 years. I am wife# 3. We share a child, who adores both of us. From the start he was so attentive. I did wonder however, why he had soul custody of his two teenage boys and their Mother never was mentioned or involved with them. He is very controlling and they were not allowed to mention her name. I became pregnant, he then suggested I get an abortion by taking a pill. I refused. We eventually got married. It was so gradual. I watched him browbeat his younger son , who was fond of his mother. To the point where his son was having panic attacks which led to heavy drinking and drugs.And later showed signs of violent behavior. The older son however is his favorite. Later I found out because he does as he is told. Needless to say when the boys left home, I became his punching bag. He has recruited his whole family against me.It has made my life a living hell, since my family is deceased. I had the good credit when we met. He had none. I put his name on my cards. He then forged my signature for huge amounts of cash. When his business failed I am left holding the cards literally! Thousands of dollars. I learned he owed the IRS quited a large sum of money which he lied about. We lost our home. After I refused to sign Power of Attorney on his tax lien , he made my life unbearable. Often times he would bring in his fav. son to get in my face and try and set me off. I warned him, the next time the police would be called and he would be escorted off the property. This man is very cunning, noone ever hears the things he says to me. It is emotional and mental abuse of severity. I have called the women’s shelter and the women’s crisis center for help several times over the years. Appears to be hopeless. I am afraid of him. I have seen him set people up for failure. He is a convincing, practised liar. and has an exceptional verbal facility, which can outmanoeuvre most people in times of conflict. I just feel as though there isn’t any hope. He is the actual Jekyll and Hyde nature. a very scary individual. sometimes i wonder if it’s easier to stay in the marriage rather then face divorce. I do know I cannot go on feeling this way it just gets worse with time. Open for suggestions……………
On Jan 1, 2010, jukeboxguy00 said:
Its time for you to fly. You need to get out and get out fast before anything else bad happens.
On Jan 4, 2010, ♥krista♥ said:
pack up and leave. go now and dont look back. take ur kid and get as far away as possible. dont call him. use a fake name if u stay in a motel.
On Jan 7, 2010, sparkwing_dimond said:
take your child and go. Keep trying the women’s shelters. Maybe the YWCA can help. You have to keep trying. In the long run it wont be easier to stay in the marriage at all. Make sure you get your child. Don’t let him have custody.
On Jan 10, 2010, johnnysunshine11 said:
Whatever you do to get away even if it means living on the street out of a shopping cart sounds better than what you describe. Being wife 3 should have raised suspicions. If you have to walk out the door and never look back. It sounds like that is one solution that beats the existance you have.
On Jan 10, 2010, jude said:
divorce is your only way out of this, he has ruined your self esteem, credit, and life. he just wants to stick u with all the mess, and then walk out smelling like a rose.if u really wanted help the woman’s shelter would be there for u, its probably more about needing financial stability than anything else.he has beat u down so long that u have no self worth left, and think its better to stay than to divorce. but even if u stay, u will have no life to look forward to ever, it can only get worse for u, its time to decide to get out no matter what happens to u financially. i would rather face a divorce than love like this. even if it meant loosing everything i owned i would not stay with a man who was so cunning, because he is just going to keep doing the same to u.